Friday, February 01, 2008

Oooouuuuuuchhh...

I tried to upload the cutest video, but pictures will have to do for now...

Dorothy loves her boxes.

My favorite haircut ever (the day we found out I was pregnant in December).

Our crazy, so-unlike-Oregon snowstorm over the weekend.

Turkey and dumplings. I needed some comfort food on Monday (the day of our most recent miscarriage). Need I say more?

My something to smile about.....



I had my follow-up appointment with my new OB yesterday morning. Initially, I was going to demand to see a specialist... maybe I should have, but she seemed to be very proactive. She's doing several blood tests for me, and a few for David as well. Regardless of what (if anything) she finds out from the blood tests, when we do try again we will both have a round of antibiotics at the beginning of that cycle. If/when I conceive, I will be on progesterone supplements from the moment I find out that I am pregnant. If we can make it through the first trimester, the plan will be the same as with Dorothy: cerclage at 13 weeks, weekly progesterone shots/ultrasounds, and probable bedrest and contraction meds. My OB did ask me if I wanted a lot of children. What a loaded question! But rationally, I know that one more full-term pregnancy is all I am shooting for. Her advice was the same, that she only wanted to see me go through one more pregnancy, and she'd like to see me go for a tubal (or vasectomy for DH) after that. I can live with that. With the struggle it has been to even get where we are, it's probably best physically and emotionally not to pursue it any further after two children. She advised us to wait two normal cycles before we try, so that would put us tentatively trying again around the beginning of April IF my next two cycles are on the short end, as I tend to be irregular. That's it for now!

12 comments:

Naomi said...

I am encouraged for you! It sounds like your OB is taking the bull by the horns. It also sound like she is a realistic lady who won't pump you up just to have you be let down again. I also find it encouraging that you're looking into adoption. All those goofy teens who get pregnant WAY to easy, need a loving home for those babies! Way to go.

sarah said...

I'm glad your OB is so willing to talk about all of this in depth with you; so often they just go through the motions and on so many levels, that's just not good for us high-risk mamas.

I think it's wonderful that you're considering adoption. My best friend is currently in the waiting phase of the process and after 5+ years of struggling with infertility, she says knowing that eventually there WILL be a baby for you makes the waiting far easier than waiting for a biological child to be conceived and find it's way safely to you.

(((((((hugs))))))))

Kristy said...

CUTE hair!!!!!! ;) hooray for a proactive OB!

M said...

I'm so sorry you're going thru all this - and I do know how it feels to be left behind. I hope that Dorothy's love and smiles help heal your heart.....

x

purple_kangaroo said...

(((hugs)))

Dorothy is so cute, and so is your haircut.

((more hugs))

my4kids said...

I love the last pic of Dorothy the little pigtails are cute!

I love your haircut also.

Glad to hear the new ob is so proactive. I will be praying for great results!

KMW said...

So glad that you are considering adoption, too! In my OB's office, there was a mom with her newborn adopted baby, AND she was 30 weeks pregnat. the adoption came through right at the same time she conceived. I have a lot of hope for you. For some reason I can see you in a similar position:)

So glad, too that your OB sounds so thorough and on top of things. Based on what she said, I don't think you could ask for more. Good luck!

shelley said...

Hi,

I found your blog through my friend, Naomi's, blog. (Out of the Mud and the Mire) I have been pregnant twice and lost both pregnancies. The first loss was early (at seven weeks) and the second loss was at twenty weeks. I delivered a stillborn baby boy who died due to a cord accident. We tried for a few years after that to get pregnant and it just didn't happen. Having always wanted to adopt, but never looked at that due to cost, we decided it was the right thing to do. We adopted our first son, Noah, from Korea five years ago. Deciding we wanted to add to our family again, we pondered, should we try again or should we adopt again? Having had such rough experiences with one and such wonderful experiences with the other, we chose the adoption road again without even attempting the pregnancy path. Our second son, Caleb, came home from Korea a year and a half ago. We are so blessed with wonderful, beautiful, sweet, smart, loving children. They are the children that God chose for us and I am so proud to be their mother. Even though becoming a mother was not an easy path for me, I wouldn't have traded any of the pain in to be in a different place. I feel so grateful for how our family has come together. My only advice for you would be if you choose adoption, come into it with excitement. Be sure that you're in a place where it's not something you're doing just because you can't conceive. Be in a place of acceptance of your circumstances first and then open your heart. When you hold your second child (whether he or she comes to you through adoption or biologically) it will not matter whose uterus the baby started out in. I wish you the best in all routes you explore, conceiving or adoption. You're in a hard place right now that I relate with very well.

Renae said...

Love, love the new do!

I'm sorry I haven't been around much. I've been reading but with our IF and your losses I just haven't been dealing well at all. We are still praying for you and the girls in our Bible study often ask how you are. Even if I don't comment, know that you are being thought of and prayed for every day!

Alice said...

I'm so impressed with you, your resilience and strength. I'm really glad that your OB is working with you, being straight forward and asking the tough questions. That can make all the difference. Good luck with everything. Dorothy is such a beauty, and (on a light note) your hair looks fantastic.

Tonya said...

I Hope you get everything you dream about girl!!

I love the pic and I can't believe how big Dorothy is getting!!! Wow.. amazing.. Love the new haircut as well.. it is exactly the same as mine.. lol

Elizabeth said...

Your hair is awesome!